I always chuckle when I read the term ‘expert dating advice’ as it begs the question; how exactly is one qualified to be a dating adviser let alone a dating advice EXPERT, and what actually constitutes an expert dating adviser, dating coach or dating ‘counselor’? I ask this especially in light of some of the secular rubbish and dating advice nonsense I have read on many dating sites and singles blogs!
Do dating ‘experts’ really exist? Probably not!
Is a ‘dating advice expert’ someone who has been on a thousand successful dates, or is it someone who has been on a thousand unsuccessful dates, or all of the above – or neither – is a successful dating expert someone who found their match on their first date and is still married to them? Or – is it someone that has read lots of dating books or dating columns? Or perhaps there is some University of Dating or some special degree or certificate one can gain from some college (I bet there is nowadays!). I mean it’s a daft idea really and so why then would we be writing this dating advice blog in the first place?
Well the answer is simple; we Christians have a different rule book from the the dating advisers of the secular world and depending on how much life experience we have in light of our knowledge of the Bible and how relationships should be started and conducted in light of The Bible. We who are deeply steeped in the knowledge of God’s love and wisdom are qualified to guide and help our Christian brothers and sisters and are uniquely qualified to advise ONLY with the guidance of The Holy Spirit!
For instance, I will not try to pretend that dating sites are by any means the best way to meet people – they are simply a way to meet people in this less than perfect world where Christians are disparate and separated and often in places where meeting other suitable Christians is impossible. I will tell you that the best place to meet someone is at your church or via friends but if you are in a remote isolated place then use the Internet!
The most silly advice on ‘how to have physical relationships on a first date’ – how to make your date more intimate with such things as bubble bath at hotels and all sorts of other no nos for Christians