Men have always had a weakness for looks when it comes to dating and finding a women to marry, and often if that is their weakness, end up choosing someone based on little else. Frankly when a man is confronted by great beauty – his senses and reasoning go to pot! Let alone the ability to distinguish between someone that really loves them – or someone that is with them for other motives or reasons. It’s just the way of the world, and mentioned many times in the Bible as being a man’s great weakness.

Equally, women often have similar troubles, but in a slightly different way; sometimes, when confronted with affluence and success in a man, they have the same mental reasoning block and in a subconscious effort to find and create a stable environment for their children, they will choose the man that can offer them financial stability over one that might actually be better for both then and their children in terms of their spiritual welfare.

Not only can money be an aphrodisiac for men and women, like beauty, though neither are bad in themselves, both can lead to all sorts of bad judgements if the person involved has not resolutely made up their mind beforehand to always go for the most Godly options placed before them and consult him in the process and give up their own notions of what’s right for them (often God has something totally different, more suited and better for believers).

The truth is, in a world where we are all told we are owed and should have and are entitled to everything – it can be almost impossible to see the wood for the trees for men and women when it comes to choosing the spouse that God would have them marry.

Well, along these lines, I just came across a short letter that a mother wrote to her daughter and thought that both men and women in church might benefit from reading it. Here it is;

“My mother once said to me; there are two kinds of men you’ll meet. The first will give you the life you want and the second will give you the love you desire. If you’re one of the lucky few, you will find both in the one person. But if you ever find yourself having to choose between the two, then always choose love.”