I’m not sure about Joel Osteen’s idea of Your Best Life Now – I certainly don’t read that in the Bible… but I do read something more along the lines of Your Best Wife Now in the well known book and verse in the Bible namely Proverbs 31 (and Your Best Husband Now appears in various places too!).

What kind of wife do we Christian men really need?

Surely this 2000+ year old Bible verse and description of what we today should be looking for in a Godly Christian wife is hopelessly out of date? I mean haven’t we moved on? Hmm. I don’t know about that – as last time I checked the Bible also says God (the inspirer of the Biblical texts written by men) is the same yesterday, today and forever.

But seriously – what are we men supposed to look for in a Godly wife? Well – I have to say that description fits my wife-to-be absolutely perfectly and she is the most Godly girlfriend I have had (and I’m not advocating having more than one if possible – it’s just that I wasn’t always the perfect person I am now 🙂

I am joking of course in regards to me – I’ve not been a very godly person myself – but having seen the match in Proverbs 31 and experiencing this kind of diligent, hard-working, God-seeking, loving person – she leaves 99% girls in the dust. There is just no comparison.

The Bible is right!

I lived in and around London for many years and I have to say that finding a really godly person – and I mean really Godly (i.e one that understands that the church had become very worldly and is not swayed by the media or how the latest cool preacher on the block interprets the Bible) male or female in today’s church is like finding a needle in a haystack.

Before you go nuts and assume I am a self-righteous moron (sometimes i am actually) I believe I can say this as I myself fit into this category. I guess my only saving grace might be I recognise it and don’t like it in myself. I certainly wanted someone less like me and more like Jesus – but of course it’s my responsibility to make myself ready for my wife to be too if God is ever going to bless me with in really godly spouse.

I once heard a preacher that always told couples he was marrying that they were incompatible at the start of the service! The point being that we all need to clean ourselves up and get along with people who are different. There are no compatible human beings as we are all stubborn, irritating, annoying, selfish etc etc and these things will not magically disappear when we go into marriage.

In other words WE must get along with our partners and always be willing humble ourselves if we have any hope of staying together. And also realise that divorce is really not an option in The Bible BEFORE we get married. Not – well let’s see if we get on! No – you must get on period. There is a silver lining to this, and that is if you both make the decision to forgive and forget after every row then a marriage can last forever!

How did I get onto that tangent?! I don’t know I just see such lame teaching in churches these days on marriage and divorce. God hates divorce so you must find the will – where there is a will there is a way and this is true!

Back to the point of the article. Sure there are tonnes of ‘eligible’ guys and girls but very few that really seek God – I mean really read their Bible – know the difference between a King James and an NIV or see the vast difference between a Joel Osteen or a Spurgeon.

I have been truly inspired to seek God more myself by my girlfriend – a gift from God I recognise and this is really the way it should be. Not only that fellas, this girl who listens to the small still voice on my behalf when I am being, frankly an idiot, has got me out of many situations where my own rebellious and sometimes wilful sin has stopped me from seeing the wood for the trees and this – this is the kind of wife you need as  Christian!